Mommy DRAMA..Whats that you may ask? Its something that has been bothering me a ton lately.
I am used to getting comments like
You had Clayton before marriage?
Oh my you had twins bet your hands are full
Wait, what you have 4 under 4 are you crazy?
Why so many kids so quickly
Stuff like that I can handle I learned to get past, but lately comments about how I do things is really hurting me. Why must mommy world be so judgmental? As long as the kids is loved, healthy and taken well care of who cares how they do it. You don't know why they chose to do things that way. Dont Judge!
I am a FORMULA FEEDING, DISPOSABLE DIAPER, STAY AT HOME, NON-CO-SLEEPING, NON 100% ALL THE TIME WEARING BABY MOMMY, C-SECTION non NATURAL, & I AM PROUD TO BE ONE!
Oh wait, why can i be so proud of this?
Its because it was the best choice for my family and I'm doing the BEST i can and thats the best thing a mom could ever do!
Here are the reasons behind my choices
Why do we formula feed?
Clayton- my milk never came in till almost 3 weeks after he was born. By then he was already bottle feeding and taking formula that we felt it was better off this way..Plus I had lots of health issues and a month or 2 after him I had surgery.
The twins- We did try to breast feed them, due to them 2 months early they couldn't latch well that I moved to pumping for them and they fed my babies through a feeding tube, but breast milk wasn't enough formula had to be added. I pumped for 2 weeks and was able to pump enough that they were stocked and had it for a total of 4 weeks with formula added. After that I stopped, it was alot of work having twins and a toddler needing me. Pumping and then mixing it with formula just to feed them took alot. We chose formula again.
Sachi- Her birth did NOT go as planned and was separated from me before I could see her! I saw her 17 hours after she was BORN(Granted, I was separated from all my kids after they were born hardest thing ever to not be able to hold them right away it just wasnt an option). I couldn't breast feed her lungs were so poor we chose formula again and if anything that helped her gain weight faster do to being so mall and actually kept jaundice levels down. I did let her latch a few times, but due to health complications again I was medicated for 3 months after she was born and I was not going to give her breast milk that was toxicated from these meds
Other reasons..All my kids are lactose and soy sensitive
Its not that I didn't want to breast feed its that I couldn't without some sort of complication. When sachi and the twins did latch a few times it broke my heart that couldn't breast feed. So, when people judge me not only does it offend me it breaks me..I was NOT able to and it WAS the best choice for my family and I.
Disposable diapers?
How can I put those none organice toxic things on them?
Cloth diapers were just not something I was into at the time I had clayton, the twins well they were TWINS I had enough stress with just them, Sachi we have actually decided we will use organic disposables. Plus a side note brock doesn't like cloth hehe..
No big reason here just something we did not choose to do
Why am I a stay at home mom?
Yes, I know we could probably be better off financially if I chose to work, but I grew up with a stay at home mom and loved it, I wanted to be able to due to the same thing for my kids it was a decision Brock and I both made before Clayton was born. I wanted that bonding time with my kids! Its a life style I chose and love it!
Co-sleeping/baby wearing
Why do I not have the baby with my 24/7..I have other kids, I don't feel comfortable sleeping with my child in my arms, holding my kid all the time or even in a back pack is not easy when I have other little ones that need my attention too! I also don't have physical strength back to normal yet, I am still dealing with health issues since my last C-section.
Why a C-section?
Clayton- 24 1/2 hours of labor and he wasn't moving his way out, a c-section was ordered and come to find out that he was being strangled by his cord, if we would have forced him out he could have died. C SECTION saved my little ones life
Twins- Well, we planned a C-section due to the fact I already had one and the fact it was twins
Sachi- Once you had 2 C-sections it was a given that it would be again, except this one did NOT go smoothly and almost 5 months later I am still dealing with complications
Yes, c sections are not natural, but that doesn't mean I had an easy birthing experience. Clayton and the twins I still delt with contractions, bleeding, and recovery. Sachi no contractions with her, but I delt with and still am healing from her. So NO its not the lazy easy way out of giving birth its a SURGERY your insides come out and then you pray they all go back in right :)
These are just some of the topics we deal with every day. Yes, there are more but this states my point. Before judging, commenting or bragging how you do things to some one you might want to re-think it.
I am so happy for my friends who could breast feed, baby wear, natural births and so on.
The mommy world should be one of a happy, loving, caring and just being there and encourage one and other.. Because as any mom would know you would love to be encouraged instead of dragged down when your trying your best..
Yes, I am sure I have been judgmental too, but i'm trying my best to not be and thats all anyone can do!
We are all mommies and we are doing our BEST!
Encourage, help and love one another!
I love you all my mommy friends and you are doing an AMAZING JOB!
